Great article and very thoughtful from a young man. I'm the eldest son of an 80 year old dad and 74 year old mom. I grew up as a lower middle class Asian immigrant and they made a lot of sacrifices for my education. Yet sadly I don't have any positive feelings for them due to their abuse and cynical view of me. Luckily they have a decent amount of assets now so I don't have to support them.

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Great insight on people asking where you live. It's similar in Korea. In a lot of cases they are asking indirectly whether I live in a rich area and in turn whether I can afford to live there. I look poor, so asking where I live is a way of making admit my low status in public (i.e. humiliating me in public). If someone asks that to me, I choose to remain silent or ask them why they are asking, while steeling myself to leave or protect myself. I often leave by saying I have to go to the bathroom or make a phone call, and just ditching the person.

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Bowl Cut Man 5000

Bowl Cut Man 5000

Korean male in Edmonton, Canada. Immigrated here in 1976 as a 2 year old.